“Nomophobia” The Newest Disease…And we ALL have it!

I was in church recently getting my usual Sunday spiritual healing on, when the Pastor mentioned something during his sermon that caught my attention. He said and i quote “people today suffer from a disease that we can’t win a fight against and that disease is called Nomophobia”.

The Whole church was stunned as well as confused for 2.5 seconds until he ( the pastor) explained what Nomophobia is

Nomophobia- The Fear of being with out of Mobile Contact

Thats right! we are all suffering from the fear of not having a phone in our life

phone Some people will admit that yes this is true while some people will simply chalk it up to something that i’m certainly making up just to draw traffic to my post. if your one of those people whom don’t believe that this word is real “Google”it and you will see for your self that yes the word “Nomophobia” is a real word.

Ask your self this question reader, have you ever left your house for where ever you were going rather it was to; school, work, church, shopping etc.. and you managed to get half way to your destination and then it suddenly hit you

kevin-hart-disses-ex-torrei” I know I didn’t forget my Damn Cellphone in the house?!” or maybe you have found your self in this situation, your at a social gathering and your having a good time and the Suddenly you realize that your phone isn’t where you think or thought it is or was (pocket, hand, bag etc..”

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Its the year 2014 and owning a cellphone is just as important as owning a State I.D card, with out it your nothing! and no body! It is also this same form of technology that rather people realize it or not is destroying  the lines of communication as well as  basic living. Have you reader ever found your self going to the gym and after leaving a work bench you proceed to another work bench only to come across this scene?

Unknown  Phones at the Gym 02 This happens to me all the time, i’m just trying to work out and there are people whom can’t even get through a work out with out having to check social media (twitter, instagram, Facebook etc..) or hold full conversations and then have the nerve to say “yeah i got one more set” when you ask them are they done…Get off the set! i’m trying to work out here!

How about this situation reader, going out to a bar or a lounge for a what you hope a expect to be a good night out of drinking, dancing and mingling only to realize through out the night that something is really wrong here

© LIME PICTURES  04-08-14-jesse-mccartney-selfie-sub-3  Like i mentioned in one of past post ” we are living in a selfie society”  nobody goes to the club, lounges or bars to dance and get all sweaty and have a good time its about being cool and taking selfies with your friends and posting to social media. you know the situation is taken to the next level when after conversing with some one that you find attractive and instead of exchanging phone numbers they ask “are you on instagram?

-my-face-when-i-read-the-first-question-of-a-test_20120614014509 exactly mine and your reaction. Cellphones have even managed to destroy what was once basic writing language, which has no become known as text message language

txt  Text-Message-Ashford-University So why are we suffering from this disease called “nomophobia”? well its simple as this reader, with the creation of smart phones, life became easier (and we all know how we like things easier) instead of sitting in front of a computer checking emails, reading facebooks statues, searching for the hottest places to eat, shop or party. We can do it from our cellphones.

Best-Smartphones-GM-Apple-Samsung-HTC-Sony-GadgtMag-2013-2014-1-2-3-4-5-Tablets-iPhone-Galaxy-Tab-Xperia-Z2 With that said, no matter what age, race or even nationality  we are all suffering from “Nomophobia” a disease that there isn’t even a cure for, and lets be for real if there was a cure for it non of us (even my self) wouldn’t even seek treatment for, after all we all need a cellphone in our life’s right????

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Don’t Fall for the Thirst Trap!!!

In todays day and age of society “selfies” rule the world of imagery, what’s a selfie you ask? Well unless you’ve been living under a Rock or inside of a cave for the past 10 years or so since cellphones became equipped with cameras.

camera phone Then you should know that a “selfie” involves a picture taken by one individual featuring that individual as well as how ever many other people may be present with that individual at the moment hint the term “Selfie”

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Now what’s a thirst trap you ask? A thirst trap if define properly is a sexy selfie taken by a individual male or female with the intention and hope of gaining Like and comments from various social media sites such as  Twitter, Facebook, instagram just to name a few.

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twitter-retweet-icon These type of pictures below are what would be considered a “thirst trap” by media social standards.

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In today’s Society of popularity and relevance, it isn’t only average folks whom take part in this  “Thirst trap” with hopes of gaining Like, Comments and Retweets, Celebrities (many in hopes oa staying relevant to their devoted fans) are also getting into the act, here are a few of the repeated offenders

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“Selfies” “Thirst Traps” its all a way for people no matter what race, age, or nationality to beg for attention via social media sites. With “Thirst Traps” being set up with the purpose and intent for people to lust over practically naked pictures of other people with high hopes of future hook ups down the line only to have those high hopes dashed and shot down in reality, with the following word play and terms being used “You are such a feen!” “I’m filing a restraining order against you!” “you are such ah thirst bucket!”.  However what people whom partake in this  “Thirst trap” don’t realize and this goes for celebrities as well, Your setting up this thirst trap with the intention to become a Media Whore!

Reader i give you this advice and its up to you to take it if you would like to


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All I want to do is Ride home in peace! Is that too much to ask for?!

Every day around the same time (6pm to be exact) I clock out of work and proceed to do my happy dance out of the front door after what always (no matter what day of the week it may be) seems to be a long 8 hours of work.  I throw on my Master blasters aka my head phones and turn the volume up on my I-Pod to Straight Ignorant level aka “Ignore everybody” and I proceed to get into my own groove.

I board the crowded “everybody just got out of work” train

Crowds Where I’m usually lucky enough to grab a seat as soon as the doors open (Now you and I reader both know how that scramble of trying to grab as seat on those NYC trains as soon as those doors open goes). With that said I sit and continue to jam out on my Master Blaster head phones

arnold However midway through my 30 min or so train ride home from work my groove is interrupted by the act of “Entertainment” that the NYC MTA unwillingly provides. If you reader live and work in the New York city area and take public transportation (the iron horse to be exact) then you know exactly what i am referring to when I use the term “Entertainment”. If you ride these following on a regular bases

a trainC train 3 train  4 train Then you reader have experienced the same groove disturbance un called for entertainment that I am speaking of.

First there are the homeless people whom decide to make the train car their own personal home as well as living space

homelessonthetrain And then you have the people whom may or may not actually be homeless giving some type of sob story with they’re cups out hoping to make a quick buck

Hands of Homeless Man with Change in Cup  until you realize looking at this individual, wait a minute! your not homeless, your sneakers are looking better then these work shoes that i have on my feet right now.



Next you have the teenagers whom are not and I would like to stress the word “NOT” selling candy for a basketball team but instead are selling candy to put some money in they’re pockets.

candykid Not as bad as the sleeping homeless guy, in fact i respect the hustle and depending on how long of a train ride home from work you have reader you may even find your self searching your pockets or wallets for a dollar for that quick sweet tooth rush.

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If you ride the 4 train home from work then you know about these people

music1  And you also know that no matter how loud you try to turn your music up, the horns and guitars some how still and i repeat “STILL” manage to drown out your own music.

And then there are the break dancers whom no matter what time of the day or what car you try to avoid seeing them, there they are every time. Its usually 4 or 5 to a group, they board the train let us all know in  the car that we are about to see a show

kanye “Bruh, we already know we’re about to see a show” ( my face expression every time), they turn on they’re “Do the Right thing Radio Raheem” master blaster of a boom box

retro-boombox-iphone-dock where some loud distorted music begins to play and for the next few minutes until the train pull into the next station we are forced to watch these kids perform more trick than a gymnastics star


As well as perform dances straight out of the 80’s early 90’s




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And if your really lucky you might be treated to some matrix type of f%ckary during this whole dance routine.



After 8 hours of dealing with people’s shit, my supervisor shit as well as the usual shit that comes with the work day of the week. I’m tired! all i want to do is turn my music up loud have a seat and ride home in peace


Is that too much to ask for?! Really? is it?!

Thats my post! Time for me to do my dance out of here

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The Declassification of a Thot

This word “Thot” has been going strong now in todays age of social media and society for close to two years now, and for some reason there are some people whom still don’t know what a Thot is.

In Fact I blogged about this sensation last year and so I thought that i would return to this topic again for it seems to keep gaining traction.

As we all know a Thot is another word for “Hoe” and yet some women in today society refer to them self’s and in many cases they’re own friends as Thot’s

blankstare-CtA Yeah my reaction exactly when I hear them use the term, so what i decided to do as a writer and blogger was break down what possibly be associated with this word called “Thot” in todays society and you reader can either agree or disagree.

lf you see a female no matter what the age, race may be (Note this does not apply to all females i’m just making a point here) and she’s sporting a hair style that resembles these

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singer-cassie-shaved-head-450kc032910   Chances are there may be some sort of “Thot” word associated with her. in todays society fashion is a constant changing  thing, fashions come in fashions go out and so its no surprise to see a female rocking the newest fashion trend. However if this female rocks this trend in all four seasons of the year and never wears anything else, chances are there might be some sort of a word association with this


Thats right leggings, if she’s sporting legging during all 4 seasons chances are she might be a thot, which brings me to my next fashion statement,


Thats right reader! The newest fashion statement for the summer are these old fashion daisey duke shorts and in many cases and rather your looking or trying not to look u might get a full glance of butt cheek cleavage.  Now I’m not implying this to all women, however i will say this if she’s wearing shorts this high with her ass cheeks showing on purpose she might be making a statement which may go with the word association for “Thot”.

Next we move on to piercings! and Once again i’m not implying this to all women, however if she has lip piercings in any of these two places chances are she might could be associating with the word  “Thot”.




Moving on here! Now what Thot would not be complete with out here own dance and yes we all know what that dance is, over any heavy beat base song that comes on no matter where they are at that very moment they just randomly bust out in to a twerk session.




And Finally! the word Thot can probably be associated with these drinks depending on whom you ask.

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And just when you thought you could escape this whole  “Thot” non-sense social media from Twitter to Instagram to Facebook just will not allow that happen





In conclusion I did not write this blog post to offend any female of any race or age, but to simply make a point of the society that we live in, like i said at the beginning of this post you can either agree or disagree

That my Post! Time for me to do my dance out of here

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Life After College…The Struggle is Real

I’m sorry Reader! I’m sorry! my blog post are becoming more rare and rare these days, but when your world consist of going to work coming home to eat and sleep and then returning back to work eventually this routine take its toll on the creative genius of the mind such as mines.

With that said I would like to thank every one whom have continued to support by blog site, I can tell by the traffic (Men lie Women lie Numbers don’t) that more than enough of you have been checking out my past post,  With that said its time to start this post.

The Month of May as come and gone and by now a lot of you have either walked across that graduation stage or know people whom have walked across that graduation stage, for this particular post I’m strickly referring those those people whom have walked across that graduation stage on the college level.

It was the year 2009 and I had finished my 3 1/2 year college bid for a two year community college (yeah they got me for that extra year and change for that finacial aid money) the fun was over and vacation from the real world was done and within a few months of being back home this is how I found my self



Hot, Miserable and agitated! Thats right reader, I fell right into the same trap that all college graduates fall into when college is over and your back home and that trap is called “the struggle” and believe me when I tell you its real and I’m sure that there are many of you that can vouch for this.

but first we have to go to the beginning of how my self as well as many before me found them self’s in this situation, A Few months before finals hit way before the time when you knew that you had to settle things down because graduation was sneaking up to close, we were all having the time of our lives


The Parties, the Bars, what bills? i don’t have no bills to pay is what many of us found our self’s saying from time to time. And then slowly but surely that month of finals creeped up and you Suddenly found your self pulling those all nighters

all nighter  making up those assignments that you missed during the semester as well as extra credit papers and assignments that are only half of your final grade. the pressure is on not just for your self


but those around you as well.

Students study on the fifth floor of the MLK library monday.

So you finally make it through the week of finals no more papers, no more class/group projects and no more assignments, you and your friends start doing the happy dance


Why not right? We made it through 4 or more years of this college thing, no more being broke and having to call home to mom’s and pop’s for money every week. The big day finally comes


You throw your Caps in the air (even when the people tell you not, you do it any way)


Congratulations to the class of (Insert Class here) and its over! back home to the people you know and miss the most friends and family, there’s a big Graduation bash


And then you wake up.

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Its at the moment that you realize “Damn, I gotta get a job now” and this reader is when “The Struggle” starts. You search online every day craigslist, Indeed, moster jobs any job site that comes to mind


your firing off those resumes left and right

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Hoping that your resume is the one that gets selected out of only a million other college graduates whom are home doing the same exact thing that you are doing.



Before you know it months have gone by and your still doing the same thing you were doing day in and day out since you came home from college


Thats right! “The struggle” has caught up to you reader, but don’t think this has only happen to you, just as I stated before this has happen to all of us. However with persistence pay off a reward, you finally get that call that you’ve been waiting for and before you know it your sitting inside of some waiting room full of other college graduates, people whom just go laid off from they’re last job as well as people whom have been out of work long than you (The Job market is ugly out here)

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And then you finally hear those magic words “Your Hired!” do the happy dance!!!


Yeah thats right, you’ve went through the storm and survived the “Life after College” Struggle or so you thought you did


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HashTags, Likes, Selfies and Twerking Todays Social Media!

Here I go again!!!  I’m sorry readers i’ve been awol for a little while dealing with the usual F%ckary that life throws my way, but I always intended to get back and here and I am.

I was riding around Brooklyn the other day with a cousin of mines in his car and he reminded me how much craziness i post on my Face Book page and how i should cut it out, I mean i can’t say that he’s wrong because if your following me on Facebook then you would know that once in a while i lose my mind and  post random madness that comes to mind (i mean really i rant one time about WWE doing something crazy like breaking the Undertaker streak at Wrestlemania and everybody has a problem with it) and then it it me.

My next post! I’m not the only person whom post craziness on the web via; FaceBook, IG, Twitter. In fact there’s people doing so much craziness and posting it on social media that there should be a social media Police.



Its the year 2014 and the whole world is run by social media sites (even as i sit here typing this right now it sounds like some hollywood movie plot) from Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine as well as blog sites.



We are living in the hashtag Era (courtesy of those good folks over at Twitter Universe) where any topic of any kind can become a trending topic around the world from scandals, to hollywood divorces, to sports events, world events, movies and T.V shows, Award shows, celebrities, product placements, you name it slap a hashtag in front of it and you my friend have a trending topic for the world to see as soon as you hit that send button.



It is also in this same era that the term “selfie” is born. You reader know what a selfie is, I’m not going to even explain it because for one we are all doing it and for two it is almost impossible to own a smart phone and not have over a hundred “Selfie” pictures on it.

Seflie’s are being taken all around the world and posted to the media websites for the world to see, from Hollywood, to politics to sports if theres a camera phone present chances are we are going to see a selfie picture, think i’m lying? here are a few

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And then there was the FaceBook era, more like the “Like” era because this doesn’t just belong to Facebook it also belongs to the other social media sites as well.  We’re talking about people creating status on Facebook just to see how many “Likes” they can gather for example: I’m looking at my time line feed on Facebook and some girl is posting lonely post status and she had over 25 “Likes” under this status.


In some cases you might even find the usual engagement, having a baby, getting married, just got a new job status which all gather over a hundred or so likes (depending on how many Face Friends a person has) and then there are the ignorant FaceBook Status





Last but not least we move on to Instagram. where people go to post pictures of them doing things that normal people would either not be doing or in some cases shouldn’t be doing all for you guessed it



Thats right with invention of Instagram comes the era of “Look at me” aka i’m dying for extra attention that i’m not getting on Facebook from my friends and family.



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And just when you thought it couldn’t get any better or worse (depending on how your looking at this post) along comes Vine


Thats right a 15 second video of nothing but people doing extra crazyness and if your really lucky enough you just might comes across a few Twerk videos in the process.




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Why does everybody wanna be ah Rapper tho ??????????????

What is this world coming to? gone are the days when young men and women dreamed of becoming successful doctors, lawyers, Teachers and even police officers. But then again this the year 2014 where the bar of complete F@ckary is raised to its all time high!

Welcome Back Reader! its time to get into the newest blog post from yours truly. Remember when you were a kid and you would watch music videos on TV of your favorite Rapper or singer and you said to your self “I wanna be ah rapper” or “i could sing better than that!” however once you grew up you realized those dreams were just dreams right?  Yeah well some people never stopped dreaming.

In a World where society judges a person by looks rather than talent, where Fake is in and real is out and where social media makes some people feel more important to the world than they really are. These days everybody has some kind of dream of being a “Rapper”

Image Thats right Reader! gone are the days when people (and I do mean people because this isn’t just for kids anymore) strived hard to get a job a good and live a decent life, replaced are the days of trying to make it big into the music business. Some people don’t regular 9-5 jobs anymore they want, what they assume is the Life and images that are displayed in front of them from TV, music, movies to social media









They want that drake “Started from the Bottom now we here!” life story.


Rather they have talent or not they want to be able to use machines to count money like this

ImageAs well as drink out of gold bottles and drive fancy cars and wear expensive jewelry that’s the cost of some college kids tuition.

Image  Is what these “I wanna be ah Rapper” people strive to be able to say one day.

The Notorious B.I.G said it best in the 90’s Either you slinging crack or rock or you got ah wicked jump shot ( lets face it not every one can be the next Lebron James) So there for people strive to be the next…







And thats just to name a few, and if this “I’m wanna be ah rapper” person is in they’re 30’s trying to start a rap career they can always be this next guy.Image

In Conclusion reader, if any of this that i stated in this post makes sense to you, then you can agree with the statement. The Society that we once grew up in that encouraged us to strive for the best and become successful in life has long gone out the window and has been replaced by what the masses as well as the media (Tv. Movies, music, Web) encourages us (well not all of us) to become.

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2014 The Resurrection of the singing groups?????

It started last year in November 2013 when the station VH1 premier the TLC Bio movie for the world to see


however thats not where this story actually begin. Believe it or not this story actually begins the year before 2012 when the 90’s group SWV dropped they’re newest as well as grammy nominated ( and most slept on by the media and todays radio) Album “I missed us”


Which in my opinion was a very good album to listen to (in fact its on rotation on my itunes today). When ever this story actually begins just know reader that as a avid music listener I am predicting that this is the years that the singing groups return to music!

Some of our Favorites from the past are already reunited and performing on tours as well as doing shows already.







While some are already on TV with Reality shows


And if your really interested! there’s been some buzz online lately about these guys hitting the studio again


Like I said reader and as the title of this post reads 2014 will be the year of the resurrection of the singing groups, here’s a few that are still AWOL that we as fans are hoping get back into the spot light and provide us with the good music that was sound track to some of our lives.









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Young, Rich and Doing Dumb Sh%T (The Life of Young Celebrities)

Stop me if you’ve heard this one before “in todays news super star Bah Blah Blah was arrested today for Blah Blah Blah in Blah Blah city”. Yeah we’ve all heard this story before and its the same thing every time, celebrities committing crimes getting arrested  and the media creating a circus out of the whole thing.

In a world where social media is at its all time high, where every movement of a celebrity is tracked by either a camera phone or in many cases the paparazzi, we are witnessing what is becoming a new fab sensation. Thats right I said new fab sensation! young hollywood stars rich and doing dumb shit! (hints the title).

As every one knows Pop star Justin Beiber  (damn I sound like a reporter saying that ) was arrested yesterday for drag racing his Lamborghini on a miami street at 4 am in the morning


And was charged with Drag racing and DUI (he either looks high as a kite or he’s scared shitless in this mug shot). Lets be for real here, this is not something thats new to us right? young, rich, celebrities acting out? we’ve seen this before! this is a rerun episode! in fact didn’t we just witness Chris Brown go through something similar? well maybe not the whole drag racing thing but getting arrested.


Yes we did! but like I said before reader this is a rerun episode! and in the end they get arrested, get a slap on the wrist and its all forgotten about until the next celebrity winds up in the headlines, here are a few of the past and present young celebrity’s whom have winded up on the wrong side of the law in case you’ve forgotten.








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Although I must admit Lindsay has been arrested so many times that she can create her own flip book out of her mug shot pictures.  It seems that every time we as television viewers as well a drama junkies and celebrity worship followers turn on our televisions, smart phones or tablets there’s another celebrity making the news after being arrested for some crime that we are probably going to forget about in a few weeks away.


Whom knows what makes these young, rich celebrity’s find them self’s in these situations, maybe its the fame


maybe its the flashing lights that comes with the trappings of being a celebrity


or maybe its all in the damn water.


What ever the case maybe, rather you love them or hate them. They keep creating the headlines and we the people keep talking about it. In conclusion if i was this guy


I would watch my self out there in them street, for its only a matter of time before he falls into the trap! or maybe he already has?

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